Yep, that’s me. I just took an Enneagram test for fun. I don’t really like tests, being boxed in and defined. But, I have to admit this is too darn accurate. Now what? I guess it’s really good to stay mindful of my strengths and limitations. The following defines me so well. It all sounds so great but being spontaneous and free-spirited isn’t easy–especially when you are the mother of an Aspie.
Ideally I would have stuck to my dream of being an adventure travel photographer. I’m still pursuing adventure travel and photography but they are still quite separate-at least more than I had hoped at this point. At least now I know why these pursuits are so important to me!
I was defined as a Seven by the test:
Some charts define Seven as Adventurers, Big Picture Seers, Escapists, Generalists and Enthusiasts.
Sevens have fear about their inner world. There are feelings of pain, loss, deprivation, and general anxiety that Sevens would like to stay clear of as much as possible. To cope with these feelings, Sevens keep their minds occupied with exciting possibilities and options— as long as they have something stimulating to anticipate, Sevens feel that they can distract themselves from their fears. Sevens, in most cases, do not stop merely at thinking about these options, however. As much as possible they attempt to actually do as many of their options as they can. Thus, Sevens can be found staying on the go, pursuing one experience after another, and keeping themselves entertained and engaged with their many ideas and activities (unless they have family members who are home bodies and don’t like change).
How to Get Along with Me
- Give me companionship, affection, and freedom.
- Engage with me in stimulating conversation and laughter.
- Appreciate my grand visions and listen to my stories.
- Don’t try to change my style. Accept me the way I am.
- Be responsible for yourself. I dislike clingy or needy people.
- Don’t tell me what to do.
What I Like About Being a Seven
- Being optimistic and not letting life’s troubles get me down.
- Being spontaneous and free-spirited.
- Being outspoken and outrageous. It’s part of the fun.
- Being generous and trying to make the world a better place.
- Having the guts to take risks and to try exciting adventures.
- Having such varied interests and abilities.
What’s Hard About Being a Seven
- Not having enough time to do all the things I want.
- Not completing things I start.
- Not being able to profit from the benefits that come from specializing; not making a commitment to a career.
- Having a tendency to be ungrounded; getting lost in plans or fantasies.
- Feeling confined when I’m in a one-to-one relationship.
And my other one is a 2:
Type 2: The Helper
Helpers are warm, concerned, nurturing, and sensitive to other people’s needs.
How to Get Along with Me
- Tell me that you appreciate me. Be specific.
- Share fun times with me.
- Take an interest in my problems, though I will probably try to focus on yours.
- Let me know that I am important and special to you.
- Be gentle if you decide to criticize me.
In Intimate Relationships
- Reassure me that I am interesting to you.
- Reassure me often that you love me.
- Tell me I’m attractive and that you’re glad to be seen with me.
What I Like About Being a Two
- Being able to relate easily to people and to make friends.
- Knowing what people need and being able to make their lives better.
- Being generous, caring, and warm.
- Being sensitive to and perceptive about others’ feelings.
- Being enthusiastic and fun-loving, and having a good sense of humor.
What’s Hard About Being a Two
- Not being able to say no.
- Having low self-esteem.
- Feeling drained from overdoing for others.
- Not doing things I really like to do for myself for fear of being selfish.
- Criticizing myself for not feeling as loving as I think I should.
- Being upset that others don’t tune in to me as much as I tume in to them.
- Working so hard to be tactful and considerate that I suppress my real feelings.